How to Conceive a Baby

For some people, they can conceive within the first month. For the rest of us, there’s a mixture of luck and learning involved. Although we can’t help you with the luck (besides wishing you well) we’re here to give you some advice on how to conceive as soon as possible.


In this article, we also touch upon several scenarios that you could be encountering while trying to get pregnant. Things like stress, a tilted uterus or irregular periods can switch up the ways you’ll want to go about getting pregnant. Conceiving a second baby or trying to conceive after a miscarriage can mean different things. We’ll get into specifics and hopefully answer all your questions!

1) Stop taking your birth control

The first step is to stop taking your daily pill. The quicker you get off your birth control, the faster your body will ovulate. Since hormonal birth control alters your body’s reproductive system, it can take several months to ovulate. Your body needs some time to return to its normal reproductive state.

If you use a birth control implant or an IUD, make a doctor’s visit to get it removed. Do not try to remove this on your own. While you’re there, take some time and let your doctor know that you’re trying to get pregnant. They’ll be able to give you some advice as you try to conceive.

2) Take a Daily Vitamin and Improve Your Diet

It’s important to look at your health when trying to conceive. Getting healthy directly affects your ability to conceive. Look at your diet and make sure you’re getting enough greens and healthy foods. Stay away from sugary, processed food. Focus on whole foods that are easy for your body to digest and are packed full of nutrients.

Although it’s best to get our nutrients through foods, we inevitably miss certain vitamins in our diets. We’re only human, right?

Begin taking a prenatal or daily vitamin. This will supplement any nutrients or vitamins that your diet doesn’t fulfill. Don’t rely on the vitamin, though, it’s important to be eating nutritious meals.

3) Stop Smoking and Drinking

Both you and your partner should abide by this rule. Smoking and drinking can negatively affect your chances of conceiving. Smoking has been connected to lower sperm counts. It’s important that you both are in a healthy state when trying to conceive.

Smoking can also affect your baby once you do conceive. We all want a healthy baby, so give yours the best chance by staying away from alcohol, drugs, and tobacco.

4) Visit your doctor or select and visit a midwife

If you have a primary care physician, visit them and let them know you’re trying to conceive. They know you and your history best. Because of this, they can give you personalized advice on how best to conceive.

Have your partner visit their doctor as well. It’s best to know if there are any factors that may affect your ability to get pregnant before you start trying.

Lastly, if you are planning on having a natural birth with a midwife, begin looking at midwives in your area. Ask friends for their recommendations and experiences with local midwives. Make appointments with them and ask for advice. They might give some valuable insight that conventional medical doctors may not be aware of.

5) Learn about ovulation

The key to conceiving is ovulation. There’s a 12-24 hour window each cycle where you can get pregnant. It’s important to figure out when this is to give you the best chances of getting pregnant.

The most effective way is by taking your temperature. Purchase a basal body thermometer and begin taking your temperature each morning.

Every woman's body will rise in temperature when she ovulates, so this is a sure sign that you’ve ovulated. There is a method to learning this type of temperature monitoring, and you can find out more here.

6) Lay flat after sex

Although million of sperm will make their way to the uterus after having sex, you can give them an extra fighting chance.

Laying down for 10 minutes after sex can expand the amount of time that sperm will stay in your body. Once you stand up, gravity will take over and many sperm will exit your body.

Either way, the sperm will make it to your uterus, it’s just a matter of how many you’re allowing to get there.

I’d like to touch on a few situations where conceiving might prove to be more difficult than the average couple. Below are some situations you might be experiencing.

How to conceive without stress

If there’s anything I’ll remember about my time trying to conceive, it was the stress. Fortunately, I’m hoping you can all learn from my mistakes. I’ve learned and used a method I call “RAD”. What does RAD stand for?

1) Reason: When I’m stressed, it’s easy to slip into my own mind and become extremely worried. I’ll stress about things I have no control over. It’s important to come back to reality and reason. Focus on facts.

It’s normal for couples to take up to a year to conceive. It’s reasonable to not get pregnant right away. Slipping up and forgetting to take your daily vitamin or exercise yesterday is ok. Minor mistakes can happen and you shouldn’t let it get to you.

2) Affection: For many of us, being affectionate with your partner can melt away a lot of stress. Although it’s tough to admit it at times, cuddling during a tough time can lower your blood pressure and reduce stress hormones.

Plan a stress-free night with your partner. No sex, just dinner, movie, ice cream and cuddling on the couch. Without the pressure of sex, you’ll be able to enjoy yourselves.

3) Diary: Yes, I said diary. Now before you begin making fun of me, hear me out.

A diary is a way to be brutally honest about your feelings. It’s a great way to release stress at the end of a tough day. Take 10 minutes each evening to sit in bed and journal about any stresses or worries you had that day. You’ll be shocked how well this can relieve stress.

How to conceive with a tilted uterus

A tilted uterus is actually fairly common. Around 20% of women have a tilted uterus. Essentially this means that the direction of your uterus is the opposite way that it should be.

An easy way to learn whether this affects you is by visiting your OBGYN. They can do an exam that will diagnose you with this issue.

In order to fix this issue, I advise you to look into fertility yoga. Certain yoga poses can actually work the body to repair itself. This is an easy, non-invasive solution that you can try right now. Here’s a video I found that I love.

How to conceive with irregular periods

If you have an irregular period, the first thing you should do is see your doctor. There may be a larger issue going on. If there’s no issue, you are still able to conceive.

The key to conceiving with an irregular period is to pinpoint your ovulation. There are several signs that your body shows you in order to indicate that you're ovulating.

Learning how to monitor your temperature is the most effective way of learning when you ovulate. Another way is by checking your cervical mucus. Learn more about these methods here.

How to conceive a second baby

15% of couples can’t conceive after having their first child. Why is this? It can come as a shock but there are several reasons that the second child might be more difficult than the first.

Things like age, complications with the first pregnancy, and length of time since the first pregnancy can all play factors into conceiving a second baby.

The best way to conceive after your first baby is to wait until your regular period has returned. Once this has happened, begin tracking your temperature and use ovulation sticks to determine when you’re fertile.

How to conceive after d&c

After a dilation and curettage, it can take several cycles before it’s safe to conceive another baby. It’s best to wait 6 months before trying to conceive. Once your periods have returned to normal, your HCG levels are zero, and your period is back to normal, attempt to conceive like before.

I hope these tips were insightful for you! Make sure to have fun and enjoy this exciting time while trying to conceive.